The debate over the NFL’s botched handling of Ray Rice’s brutal assault on his wife threatens to divert our nation’s attention from the real issue: The need to treat seriously incidents of domestic violence and to enact laws and policies that aid survivors in their attempts to escape violence. Time and again, those who suffer intimate-partner violence are victimized — not only by the partner who abuses them, but by society at large. Sadly, our laws often are complicit in this victimization …