SAN FRANCISCO — A long legal battle over accusations that a prominent Silicon Valley venture capital firm demeaned women and held them to a different standard than their male colleagues became a flash point in the ongoing discussion about gender inequity at elite technology and venture capital firms. Though Ellen Pao lost her lawsuit against Kleiner, Perkins, Caufield & Byers, Silicon Valley observers say her case and the attention it received will embolden women in the industry and continue to spur firms to …